If you want to deeply listen to someone else, you first have to be clear on what your inner experience is. You have to connect to the present moment and let your thoughts, judgments and feelings come into your awareness while not attaching to them.
The miracle of listening this way allows the talker to unfold into their own brilliance. Without letting our busy-body minds interfere with their process, an invitation is extended so that Truth may enter.
When Truth enters, healing occurs.
The story and its circumstances are not altered, yet the talker is allowed an opportunity for inner transformation if they are ready for it.
However, as a listener, if we are invested in validating, interjecting and sharing our own ideas about how this story ‘should be’, we block the flow of the miracle.
Yesterday, I mindfully listened to a woman who shared a harrowing and unjust life story. Instead of responding with my words or gestures, I let the story sweep over me. I saw inside myself the judgments, labels and rising tides of emotions.
These were mine. Not hers.
But because I waited through that uncomfortable urge to say something, the story slowly shifted to immense beauty. While it included heartbreak, the lights of resilience started to shine through it.
My labels and judgments were soon replaced by sheer awe.
When awe enters, it is easy to detach and yield with an open heart to the Love that lives inside struggle.
Where else could we yield? What miracles await us if we simply let go?
I am ready to listen.
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