The gift of conditional love is the ability to recognize what is unconditional.
Conditional love promises acceptance and belonging if its terms are met. The onus is all up to you. If you are able to meet the criteria, you will belong. You must be vigilant. You must constantly change who-you-are to meet the conditional where it lives.
It works for awhile. Sometimes, it even mimics what the unconditional might feel like.
Then, the signs become too loud to ignore. Your world changes, your body and mind begin to breakdown and even though you see the truth for what it is, you are too frightened to leave the familiar.
I cannot promise you an easy path if you choose to seek for that which is unconditional.
The heart of belonging is found within you. Every time another is unable to walk with you on the path, they are leading you inward. Therefore, not meeting you where you are is an act of great beauty. For if this happens enough, maybe a thousand times or more, you are left with what is most real.
You are complete and whole. You do not have to try to be something you aren’t or say things you never believed. You do not have to pretend up is down or wrong is right. You can express what is true-for-you in all circumstances never needing an outside source to validate it.
If it’s true-for-you, it is.
Rest in this Knowing.
You never have to be anything other than you.