There is a great misunderstanding that courage only shows up as stoicism.
What if it takes more courage to fully access the depth of our fear and pain than skating over the top of it like ice on a winter pond?
Do not underestimate the healing power of your tears. They are meant to bathe you in self-compassion and understanding. They are purposeful in their manifestation.
False bravery abounds if we remain on the fringe of what we feel in our hearts. Fear becomes anger projected outward, pouring out of us and taking no prisoners. Anger projected inward becomes so injurious to our soul, it begins to falter and life loses its luster.
There is healing in the full spectrum of emotion and experience. Leave one part out and the brick and mortar of existence disintegrates.
Today may not be the day you face all that is hidden. But when you can, when you feel able, lift the light of awareness and wash it over the darkest, most unseen parts of your being.
Quite possibly instead of everything you fear, you may find more to love.
“Imagine you are walking in the woods and you see a small dog sitting by a tree. As you approach, it suddenly lunges at you, teeth bared. You are frightened and angry. But then you notice that one of its legs is caught in a trap. Immediately your mood shifts from anger to concern: You see that the dog’s aggression is coming from a place of vulnerability and pain.”
True Refuge: Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart
Opening ourselves to a wider understanding of another person’s perspective is the first step towards cultivating a compassionate heart. We can learn to do this by becoming quiet in the easy moments. Themes of our thinking may or may not show their constancy, but we soon learn individual thoughts come and go like soft waves lapping and retreating along a coastline.
By familiarizing ourselves with our thinking’s lack of structure, we realize that others may be experiencing an onslaught of confusion in their minds as well. If they happen to attach to a negative or fearful thought sequence, this may spill over into their world experience. They may lash out or in some instances, shut down completely.
If we are left to look at the surface of what they are presenting, we remain stuck in fear right alongside them. If we open ourselves to the possibility of a deeper understanding, compassion naturally replaces our hurtful interpretations with grace.
From grace, we no longer need to concern ourselves with another’s behavior. All we need is to recognize the mutual beauty that exists between us far beneath the surface of what appears in the world.
The only question is, how deep are you willing to go?
As you come to embody your personal experience more fully, you will begin to notice life in a new way. Living in Presence affords you the beauty of seeing Love’s abundance surrounding you.
Small moments become deeply moving as your heart awakens.
With all this noticing of Beauty, you come to know other truths about yourself. You may find searing judgments and criticism below the surface of your life. In fact, you may be shocked at how harshly you speak to yourself.
Therefore, as mindfulness breathes awareness through your experience, you have to fill your emotional stores replete with forgiveness.
Yet, as you grow your heart in its most Loving direction, you will become more adept at handling the hurtful stories you tell yourself.
Space begins to form around difficulty. From this opening, healing may enter and wisdom may rise to your consciousness.
The greatest salve of humanity is forgiveness. Forgiveness of the world, forgiveness of ourselves and forgiveness of each other.