“Most people are dandelions; they’ll come out okay under almost any circumstances. Others are orchids; they’re not just more sensitive to negative outcomes but more sensitive to everything. They won’t flourish in the dirt by the side of the road like a dandelion would. But when they’re well tended in a nice greenhouse, their beauty will put the dandelions to shame”
-Eric Barker, ‘Barking up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know about Success is (Mostly) Wrong
Beauty is subjective.
The point here is not to label ourselves more beautiful or less beautiful. The point is for the orchids of the world, myself included, to recognize we have any beauty at all.
What do humans do but label and categorize ourselves until we whittle our best qualities down to piles of useless dust.
I have lived life frightened of my own beauty. I’m still scared I will lose all I have longed for and love, but I can no longer deny the spirit self that resides within me waiting to be expressed.
As an orchid, I have realized the intense nurturing I seek may not be available to me in the form of other people. The nurturing I seek is within me. To access it, I have to be so honest that my heart breaks again and again until all that remains is love.
This love is beyond what is found in the world.
A happy by-product of this love, once recognized, it makes the world around you appear more loving and accepting of who-you-really-are.
How is this possible if you haven’t changed at all?
It’s simple really.
You don’t need to change, you only have to change your mind.
Don’t mess with perfection.
I see it in you.
Have the courage to embrace it.
See how your world changes.