At the beginning of 2017, I started a daily yoga practice. Often, during my time on the mat, various teachers and instructors have said, “Take what serves you and leave the rest.” This is a guiding principle for all of life and recently, I have realized it is especially applicable to relationships.
We make relationships harder than they need to be. If we are conscious, we can interact with another without making them responsible for how we feel. We can allow them the space to be a full expression of who they are. We can learn to judge less and observe more.
It’s never the person hurting us, it is our story about them that hurts us.
We must learn to ‘take what serves us’ in a relationship and let go of everything else. If the relationship does not serve, then we have to let go of it completely.
Let them go with love.