Life isn’t as hard as we make it. We often immerse ourselves so deeply in the personal self’s story, that we come to believe the personal self is our only avenue to peace.
This is not true.
Rearranging, changing, striving, acquiring are some of the ways we trick ourselves into believing that life will become sustainably satisfying.
Move to a different town.
Get a new job.
Set goals so you are always looking forward.
Buy yourself something new and shiny.
These are some of the ways we continuously look out into the world in search of that ineffable something that always seems out of grasp.
Why is the personal self and its life and its story so perpetually unfulfilling?
Because we are looking at everything backwards.
We are not happening to the world, the world is happening to us.
What does this mean?
We must train ourselves to look at our life and its particular curiosities as a means to turn inward. If something on the outside seems uncomfortable to us, this is our invitation to let go of this discomfort and turn our attention inward.
If we turn inward enough, eventually we will reach a tipping point. Let me be clear, you are going to be extremely and sometimes miserably uncomfortable in this process, but with enough time, pratice and patience, you will have moments where you can detach from this discomfort. In these jewel-filled instances, you will KNOW that all is right with the world, even when it appears that it isn’t.
You can start whenever you are ready.